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Sunday, April 17, 2011

Grief through art

I didn’t sit down at my computer tonight to blog. Mainly, I’m hiding from the pile of dinner dishes awaiting me in the kitchen.

I wish I was artsy. I'm not. I'm about as far from talented in the arts as a person can get. I greatly appreciate art, however, and I have something that I would dearly love to share. I hope it speaks to you as it did to me.

We all read blogs, poetry, quotes and stories that we can connect with. It’s not very often we find art that speaks to us in the grief world. If sometimes there are no words, how could there be art? Well, there is. I've found quite a few artists online who express themselves and their grief dynamically through art, but these pieces in particular grabbed my attention. I received permission from the artist to post her artwork on my blog in the hopes that it can connect with others as it did me. You can read her blog and see her artwork here.

This first piece was the one that caught my eye. Feeling everything weighing on you and not having words to express that heavy burden, her art said it all.

This second piece means the most to me, the one that captured everything I was feeling those first few months. Being left behind. It encompasses those early stages of grief, and some of the later. No one stays behind with you when you grieve; eventually, they all move on with their lives. But not us. We watch, hurting and unable to move forward as our lives should have. I can't express in words what she did with one painting.

This one represents to me what my husband and I went through about six months after our loss. Our grief took us different places and before we knew it, this huge chasm had opened up between us. For a while we couldn’t reach each other and were alone in our grieving. At this point in time, I wasn’t sure our marriage would survive.

Thankfully, we found the strength to bridge that gap, and it did.

No matter how far away we are from our loss, this is what we all are doing deep inside. Still grieving.

Rachel, thank you so much for allowing me to share your work with the world. I know it was a personal journey for you, and your artwork helps others to find a connection when sometimes words just can't. You are truly talented.


  1. Wow...those are some great pieces. They capture how I felt/feel really well too. You are right, sometimes words can't express what art can. There are so many times I have a feeling bursting inside but I don't know how to express it.

  2. I agree wow! These peices prove that you don't always need words or just that words aren't enough, so much emotion in them. Thank you for sharing those.

  3. Thanks for sharing how these art pieces help connect some of your feelings and emotions to images. Thinking of you and remembering Brayden. xoxo